12 THINGS NOT TO DO AFTER GIVING BIRTH
There are so many things not to do after giving birth. Most of the time we are aware of what we should be doing.
Are there things out there that we shouldn’t be doing after giving birth?
Today I just want to focus on the things not to do after giving birth.
After having given birth your hormones are all over the place, you might not even know if you are coming or going.
It’s completely understandable and normal!
Before giving birth you probably read every single book out there on the shelf about postpartum pregnancy.
You probably think you will manage to pull together after the first few days.
Nothing, absolutely nothing can prepare you for the wave of emotions that are going to hit you once you give birth
You might even have it all mapped out in your head.
When you are going to bathe your baby for the first time, how many meals you are going to cook and perhaps even a pattern for sleeping.
Get ready to throw all of that out of the window once your bundle of joy arrives.
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THINGS NOT TO DO AFTER GIVING BIRTH
These are 12 things that you should absolutely avoid doing after you have just delivered your baby
1. DONT FORGET TO EAT
This might sound pretty simple right now but when that lack of sleep kicks in it’s pretty easy to forget.
I lost track after having given birth the number of times that I forgot to eat. Usually, I wouldn’t remember until around bedtime.
You get so caught up in the things you have to do for your baby that you immediately put yourself second and forget.
You might even find yourself faced with the dilemma between eating and having the time to sleep.
Even I can’t help you with this problem. It’s too hard to decide. Haha!
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2. USE BABYS NAP TIME TO TIDY UP
It can be really difficult not to do this sometimes because of your natural instinct.
You will want to just quickly pick up those clothes from the floor or just put the washing on whilst your baby is sleeping.
Don’t do that.
The reason you shouldn’t do that is that you need time for your body to recover.
You have just personally delivered a tiny human being, give your body time.
3. REPLACE SLEEP TIMES WITH ANYTHING BUT SLEEP
For me sleeping when my baby sleeps is difficult because I don’t enjoy afternoon naps.
Afternoon naps always throw me off course for the rest of the day and I usually wake up wondering who I am.
Don’t be like me. Use the opportunity to catch up on sleep that you will probably miss come night time.
I have a terrible habit of denying myself sleep during the daytime and then horribly regretting it at night time.
4. THINK THAT BREASTFEEDING WILL BE SECOND NATURE
When I had my first born I thought breastfeeding was an easy thing that most women did.
You take out your breast, put it in your babies mouth and after a few minutes they would be full up.
How naive was I!
Whilst I was in the hospital the midwives kept asking me how my baby was feeding.
I remember saying “he’s feeding really well, he wants to be on the breast all the time.”
Little did I know that my son wasn’t even getting a drop of breast milk.
I had no clue what I was doing. I had even less idea that breastfeeding could hurt to begin with.
After a few minor adjustments from the midwife, later on, I began breastfeeding for real this time.
It hurt like hell!
Why did no one tell me this?
Don’t assume that breastfeeding will be like second nature to you. It takes time, patience and practice. Lots of practice.
Don’t be disappointed if your baby doesn’t latch on straight away.
Most women don’t know what they are doing the first time around.
If you are concerned about breastfeeding then you should take the course from Milkology which will teach you how to get your baby to properly latch, how to properly store your breast milk and everything else that you need to know about breastfeeding.
5 NO HEAVY LIFTING
You are still in the postpartum phase, therefore, your muscles still have to recover.
I know you feel like superwoman right now but you need to give it time before you try to do any heavy lifting.
It’s not just about giving your body time to rest.
You could actually do yourself some damage by lifting something heavy so close to having given birth.
6. DON’T ALLOW EVERY TOM, DICK, AND HARRY TO VISIT IN THE FIRST FEW DAYS
This is really important. After giving birth everyone wants to come and see the new baby.
Does he look like you?
Look how small he is!
That’s really nice and it’s good to feel wanted but you need some space.
There is a WHOLE host of stuff going on in your body right now and you need time to deal with that.
Limit the people you allow in to see the baby in those first few days.
Most people will understand that you don’t have it all together just yet and need some space and time to adjust.
7. NO TIGHT CLOTHES
It can be tempting to want to get back into those skinny jeans and look like all the celebrities that you see on the TV but it just isn’t practical.
As your body is trying to get back to normal, you will be sweating and leaking all kinds of things.
You need to give your body some room to breathe. Loose clothing is always going to be best for you.
8. DONT WEAR YOUR USUAL UNDERWEAR
Don’t even think about wearing your usual underwear unless you are prepared to throw it away.
In the days following childbirth, you will be bleeding something called lochia. It’s very messy, to say the least.
During this time your body will be releasing a lot of things. It’s best to get yourself some disposable knickers that you can easily throw away after wearing.
Trust me you’ll be so glad you have these.
9. DON’T GO SWIMMING
Please don’t try to go swimming, at least until you have stopped bleeding.
This is not good for anyone and it will also make you more susceptible to an infection.
10. NO TAMPONS
Tampons are a no-no!
Whatever is inside you has to come out.
Using a tampon will not only prevent this from happening but you also run a high risk of contracting an infection.
11. NO SEX
This might be the farthest thing from your mind right now but there are always going to be exceptions to the rule.
For those that may not be aware, you should not be having sex until you are at least 6 weeks postpartum.
You should at the very least have been checked over by a midwife to give you the all clear before normal services resume.
12. NO STRAINING TO POOP
Those same muscles you use to poop are the same muscles that you just used to push out your baby.
Right now they are still in shock. You need to take it easy on them.
You might find it may take you a few days to poop after having given birth especially if you had to have stitches after a perineal tear.
That’s ok, take your time.
FINAL THOUGHTS ON THINGS NOT TO DO AFTER CHILDBIRTH
Postpartum is going to look different for everyone so anticipate this.
Don’t be in a rush to get your life back on track too quickly.
These are things not to do after giving birth to enable you to enjoy this period of your life.
The time will come and go in the blink of an eye. The first few days after you come out of the hospital are the most precious.
Treat them as such.
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